Adversarial World of Divorce

The World of Divorce Mediation

Parties’ marriage is over

Parties’ relationship is not over

Facts count more than feelings

Feelings count more than facts

Legal yardsticks determine outcome

Personal considerations determine outcome

What is a fair resolution?

What is a possible resolution that both parties can live with?

Your spouse’s word is law

Your spouse’s word is just one of many opinions

Parties follow the law

Parties create their own law - so to speak

Parties’ emotions don’t count

Parties’ emotions are valued

Good service to the marriage by one or both spouses doesn't count

Proper acknowledgment and recognition is given for loyal service to the marriage

People are attacked

Problems are attacked

Lawyers speak

Spouses speak out